We've all experienced a tough moment, a rough-day, or even a challenging period of time. Sometimes these life events are what I’ve often called the “big stuff,” such as illness, a job loss, or a difficult move. But so often it’s the “small stuff” that has our full attention …
You know that “stuff …”
> It takes the wind out of your sails just for a moment, or longer.
> It’s when you realize things aren’t what you thought they were.
> Or, you’re faced with a person, or a situation you were not expecting.
And, so there you stand … either frozen in shock, in tears, or downright angry. This “stuff” can happen at any time, and often catches us completely off-guard.
So, what do we do when this happens? I know for me personally, I’m often floored. I get the deer-in-the-headlight syndrome going. I’m as frozen as a possum … what the heck just happened?!!! Or, I will simply have a big old melt down with lots of tears, tissues, stuffed up nose and then that glorious headache that comes from all of that emotional release.
But, I can’t really stand being in that space for too long, so the key for me is to be more like Tigger the tiger and do what I call …
I believe it’s okay to feel sad, angry, etc. But, I also strongly believe it’s not in my best interest to linger there. I want to move myself into a better emotional state as soon as I'm able.
After I’ve felt what I’ve felt, and recognize that I’m not feeling my best, I’ll probably call out the troops. Who are my troops? My troops are God, the Archangels, my personal God-given angels, and guides. Sometimes I’ll listen to an inspirational recording, read a book I love for guidance, pray, journal my feelings, or I’ll call a close friend. Lately, I’ll just completely change whatever it is I’m doing to “break the evil spell,” so to speak (like get up from where I’m having my pity party, and go outside, or do the dishes).
This is what I call Self-Love, and I love myself enough to Bounce-Back as soon as possible.
Ahhh, but it’s not easy you say. I know it’s not easy. It’s been a struggle, but each time I do this that Bounce-Back timeframe gets shorter and shorter. And, in that mindset of taking control of my thoughts, my mood, my involvement in whatever pulls me down, I take my personal power back.
We all want to be happy; we can all agree on that. Learning the art of Bouncing-Back as soon as you’re able will give you more of those happy moments, days, weeks, and months. We live in a world that can offer us many opportunities not to feel so great. At the end of the day, it’s the Bounce-Back that I want to master, so that I’m not only happier, but feeling empowered and living a more peace-filled and calm life.
I’d like to be more like Tigger and be bouncing for all of the right reasons ... back to my Joy, my Happiness, and my Self-Empowerment. Wanna join me?!
If you’re feeling particularly challenged by the "small stuff," one of my favorite subjects to coach around is finding “miracles and magic in the mess.” Contact me and let’s have a conversation that matters … one that allows you to see how life can offer us lemonade from lemons, even when we at-first we cannot fathom such an outcome.
Making Friends with Crickets
Have you ever wanted something really badly? You waited patiently. You may have even waited impatiently, and …
All you hear is crickets.
There’s a job you want, a promotion you’re hoping you’ll get, a baby you’re trying to have, a settlement that seems it’s taking forever to finalize, or a home you want to sell desperately, and again …
All you hear is crickets.
We’ve all been there, or we’re right smack-dab in the middle of it at this very moment. I’ve been in this place for some time now. It’s certainly not fun. And, I have been learning the big lessons of faith and trust on a level I’ve not yet experienced --- But today it dawned on me!
What if I made friends with the crickets?!
That’s right!...friends with those gosh-darned crickets. I know this sounds crazy, but here’s the inspiration I received this morning, and am inspired to share.
I’ve been cursing those crickets! I’ve been telling everyone about my irritating crickets. I’ve been lamenting, worrying, fretting, obsessing … well, you get the point … about those darn crickets.
And, often to our dismay, you and I both understand that whatever we focus on tends to get bigger, right?! It’s the magnifying glass affect. Like, that irritating person at work who always seems to hover around your work area, or how you always get stuck in traffic, or you’re never the one recognized for the work you do --- blah, blah, blah …
Fortunately, life shows us exactly what we’re thinking and speaking. That’s the power of our words, and of those unspoken, but often-played “tapes” rolling around in our heads damning our own lives with pitiful and victim-filled thoughts. Those are the “silent killers” in my book.
Look around your life; what’s happening? If it’s not what you desire, it’s more than likely that you’ve been focused on “crickets.” The beautiful part of all of this is we get to choose our focus.
So, today I’m choosing to bless my crickets.
Yep, we’re becoming best-buddy-pals, and I’m seeing what the crickets might have been trying to teach me. It’s not only faith and trust in life’s process and timing, but they’ve shown me where my focus was not lined up with what I want. I was lined up with (focused on) crickets --- what I don’t want.
Ugghhh … so what’s next then?
I can certainly choose better thoughts. I can stop resisting what is. I can begin focusing my attention on the positive aspects of my life, like how I am blessed with family, friends, my health, a home, food on the table, fresh running water, clothing, and a running vehicle.
I can become more aware and self-correct each time a “cricket” thought pops in my head, or slides off my tongue. That’s self-empowerment. That’s clarity, and I’m all about both of those qualities in my life.
So, what might you learn from your “crickets?” Is there a part of your life you’re obsessing about? Is it stealing your joy? Is it taking your focus off of all the things you do have to be grateful for, and placing them --- in a magnified way --- on what you want, and still don’t have?
Make peace with the crickets.
Everything happens when it’s ready to happen, right? This has been my life experience. My life has given me solid evidence that things eventually always do work out. Rock solid evidence ... why should it be any different this time?
If you’re feeling particularly challenged by some gosh-darned crickets, one of my favorite subjects to coach around is finding “miracles and magic in the mess.” Contact me and let’s have a conversation that matters. Contact me for a complimentary, ½-hour discovery session.
I help others see Magic and Miracles in the Mess of this journey we all life.